Making Friends: Part 1

Yesterday was National Make a Friend Day, and although this is a natural, intuitive process for some children, other children have difficulty in this daunting task. Today we are sharing our top tips for helping support your child in making and keeping friends.

1. Brainstorm Interests – Make a list of things your child is interested in and encourage them to find others who are interested in the same things. Some great examples include school clubs, community groups, sports/dance teams, art classes and music lessons.

2. Encourage Open-Mindedness – When it comes to making friends, it’s important not to “judge a book by its cover.” Talk with your child about the importance of getting to know someone before deciding whether or not they are “friendship material.”

3. Provide Social Opportunities – Give your child plenty of opportunities to be social. Guide them in joining clubs on campus, engaging with others at recess, or talking with peers in class. After all, you can’t meet people without making an effort!

4. Inspire Uniqueness – Encourage your child to be themselves so that they can make genuine connections and long-lasting relationships. They shouldn’t have to change anything about themselves in order to become friends with someone.

5. Quality Over Quantity – Explain to your child that having a lot of friends is not always better. Encourage them to focus on fostering genuinely meaningful friendships that add value to their life, even if that means only have a few close friends. 

Friendship is a lifelong journey. We encourage you to implement these tips with your child to help them build a foundation for friendship so that their future relationships are successful. If you are looking for additional or professional help in this area for your child, please contact Jill D’Braunstein at jill@ocdc4u.com or all 949-418-9353.